Having a crush on someone who makes your heart flutter is fun. There’s nothing that can compare to that feeling when your crush walks into the room or when you two can’t stop talking to one another, but how do you let your crush know you’re into them? Whether it’s a crush on a coworker, or a crush on a friend, you can’t seem to get your mind of him or her. What do you do with this healthy love obsession? The next logical step probably is to let him or her know you are interested. However, this is the part that’s not so easy. It’s effortless to daydream about you two kissing, but it’s another story when you have to make that dream into a reality.
Putting yourself out there and letting the one you admire know you have feelings can be scary. Sometimes you are not fully ready to be that vulnerable and you’ll want to put out some feelers first. Then, when the time is right and the water is warmer you can go all in with both feet. Having my professional background in psychology and matchmaking, I know there are other ways to let someone know you want to be more than friends without directly saying it. Here are the way you can let your crush know you are feeling him or her without having to actually say it.
1. Be Thoughtful
Actions sometimes speak louder than words, so being thoughtful and showing you care will work in your favor. If your crush has told you his or her favorite donut place, then one morning wake up a little early and go pick out a special treat. Or, maybe he or she has mentioned that you have good music taste — this is the perfect opportunity to make a playlist for the person you are infatuated with.
2. Remember Little Details
Your crush will think twice when you show how much you remember about the things he or she says to you. Let’s say for instance your hopeful beau mentions a story of when he or she was little and then you bring up a detail from that story in a natural way, it will show how much you care. No matter how little the detail is, you remembering it will reveal a bigger sentiment.
3. Spend Time Together
The best way to let the person know you’re interested is by spending quality time together. That means you have to take every opportunity you can. If he or she is walking over to the water cooler at work, well then you should be thirsty too, and find an opportunity to chat. Maybe you are out with a group of friends and he or she is the only one sitting left at the table — you should make your way over. If you want to get closer then you might have to… well, get close.
4. Body Language
Let your body do the talking. There are many ways to let him or her know you are crushing hard through your body language. Lean in when he or she is talking, or make great eye contact. Laughing at his or her jokes can go a long way, or even just touching the person’s hand during a conversation can make a bigger difference than you might think.
5. Active Listening
Sure, you can listen to your crush, but are you actively listening? Active listening involves superb eye-contact, nodding your head, and making motions that show that you are listening and interested in what he or she has to say. If you are looking at how many Instagram likes you are getting on your latest pic, or scrolling through your FB feed while your hopefully-soon-to-be lover is chatting with you, he or she is not going to think you’re interested. Actively listen and your crush will be more likely to notice you’re interested.
One great way to show your crushin’ it real hard is through a genuine compliment. If the person you are daydreaming about looks smoking hot in red, well then offer up a compliment. Or maybe he or she has a killer smile — speak up and tell him or her. After a couple of praises, your crush might start thinking if these are friendly compliments or something more.
7. Tell His Or Her Friend
One way to indirectly tell someone you are attracted to them is by using a third party. In this case, dropping a little hint to his or her friend is a good and sneaky approach to letting the cat out of the bag. Because, of course, you know that his or her bestie will drop the bomb and then your secret is out there. In the next couple of weeks after you let out your secret, you will have a good idea if your crush is feeling the same way — either he or she will drop little hints too or you might see this person a little less. At least you know in the end!
Drop these little hints with your crush and see if something starts to blossom.
Source : bustle.com