For a conflict to occur, you need two or more people. If one person keeps calm, the incident will not happen. Fact demonstrated. But how can you keep your calm?
You can do this by knowing a secret. Everything your interlocutor tells you – is the projection of his inner state. It has nothing to do with you. You just got in front of him at an inappropriate time.
When someone tells you to be negligent or “you have no idea what you are talking about” – it can hurt you deeply. What right does he have to talk to you like this? Why does he think so about you? Either you get mad, or you start to quarrel with him and defend your dignity.
No one has the right to hurt you or to make you feel bad. However, there are many such people who think they can decide or control interlocutors just because they have a higher function or just because they have been practicing over time how to build their power on others’ plains.
To be able to applaud you need your hands, so if your interlocutor wants to start a fight you should have who to do, right?
It’s hard to avoid a fight, but it’s not impossible. Keeping calm in stressful situations is one of the most popular topics.
No wonder some tips do not apply to you, situations are different, people are different, and locations are different. There may be coincidences or even find yourself in the experiences of others, but solving the conflicts of yourself and your attitude.
The best advice we can convey to you is what Cinderella’s mother also gave her: “Be brave! Be good! Be kind!”
However, in order to manage a conflict, you need to be a good communicator. It’s not enough to turn your back and go, or you will do much more harm and you will light the spirits louder.
Try to listen to your interlocutor even if it takes 6 out of 8 aberrations, maybe those 2 sentences are the ones from which you will have to learn. It is important to learn the art of manipulation if you are a machiavelic person within the limits of normal. Manipulation does not come from the power acquired through a function, but by gathering information and keeping it up to the right moment. Still, we keep a normal and non-offensive limit of manipulation.